I am who I am


We all become who we are by the experiences we have had.  As for me, I wasn’t always what I am today.  So, when I was chatting with a friend a few nights ago about the past, it was funny that my past should pop up in an unusual way.

At one time, I was a practicing Dominatrix and very active in the BDSM community.  I had numerous submissive males and a following.  So, while chatting with my friend, he made comments and this lead to me being recommended to watch the movie “50 Shades of Grey”.  LOL.  I had to text my friend about the “joke” I felt this movie is.

First off, I do understand in order for it to have a “R” rating, they couldn’t do much more than they did.  However, it was a joke.  The man has serious issues and as far as I’m concerned, he’s more likely a sociopath than someone who needs to be dominating anyone.  He has real issues and they aren’t healthy.  The fact that he punished her in anger is another thing that oversteps the bounds of safety, even if he made sure she used a safe word.  Give me a break.

Secondly, he was thrilled to death to be her first lover and took delight in being the one to do it.  Then, he pushes himself into her life at every possible chance he gets, similar to a stalker and is hot and cold all over the place.  SMH.  Not a good thing at all and truly has sociopath written all over it.

I messaged my friend and told the truth.  The movie is soft porn at its best and so mild as I would have let my 17 year old watch it.  Yes, it has sex in it; but hardly enough or explicit enough to be vulgar.  Heck, I wouldn’t let my son watch the American Pie movies because of the content; but this is tamer than that.  I can’t understand how people went so crazy about this series.  To me, it was hardly worth the 2 hours I had to sit through it.  SMH.

Personally, what happens in the bedroom should stay private and in the bedroom.  I don’t kiss and tell and I expect the same from whomever I date.  If you’re too immature for that then we won’t last but one date.  As an adult, what me and my partner do is TMI for anyone else.